Two moms today in a park talking abut their 2 years old sons:

Mom1 very proud “you are so lucky that your son is so shy, my one is a real beast!

Mom2 quite teased “no no he is not shy: as soon as he gets comfortable you will see how tough he gets

Interesting how, so young, we get bombed by the absurdity that restless = aggressive = cool while shy = calm = not cool.